Jerk #9: "I'm sorry I dont fall into your family moralistic values catagory as a self serving Christian. . . . "

Um,I'm sorry but I'm offended by your comments.As far as me never talking to my parents again,I doubt that's terrible.You don't go through the situation I go through therefore if I decide to stop talking to my family it is of my own buisness. If you think thats terrible I'm sorry I dont fall into your family moralistic values catagory as a self serving Christian but I have the stregnth to say NO and BYE to my parents.I mean what have they done but put me down and tell me awful things.I pay my OWN bills and and free of any input from them and I live freely away from thier critisisim.To me parents don't mean a thing and maby you think Im' some unmoral mansonite but then again I have a mind of my own.(and yes I do know a member of Manson personally.)I will say unless you are able to be in my situation then please keep negative comments to youreself. I had a friend Jhenn who taught me that parents are really not the answer when they moan and throw all thier problemes on you.She disconected herself from her parents and pays her own bills now.Lives freely and taught me to kick my parents to the curb as well.The way I look at it if people(including your parents) dont serve a point your life kick them to the curb and go on....It's not in your intrest to say whats awful or not.You hardly know me. I'm sorry if I don't fall into the trendy scene of wannabee flannal wearing eddie veder clones but I hate those trendy wanna be accepted cause Im' too afraid to be me goatee kids.What is that anyways.YUCK!!!!!Sure I can go by looks but evreybody does in some way.I'm not out to be some radical collage kid.I managed bands as well for 2 years and as far as I'm concerened 75% of the collage scene in Gainesville is sucked in by record company mass media marketing and trend wearing jerks.I have friends who own labals and I think anybody who would dress a certain way and want to look a certain way due to the way a band looks or into trendy "altrernative" image and anti money and all,well most bands that are saying that they are so "alternative" are rich and could care less about the record buying public. Anyways,I like lipstick,glamour,and hell no!!!!!Not no lezbian preachen life is a b**tch and we all have problems music like ani Difranco.Ani's cool but I think people like that complain too much and yet people like Difranco and Amos are rich as thieves and try to make people think they are lonely depressed people.Yet when I've met them they are happy as beanes. Well,I must go......Peace !!!!!

[Peace my ass. Here's my reply.]

In a message dated 10/11/98 9:46:25 PM Eastern Daylight Time, [name deleted] writes: << Um,I'm sorry but I'm offended by your comments.As far as me never talking to my parents again,I doubt that's terrible.You don't go through the situation I go through therefore if I decide to stop talking to my family it is of my own buisness. >>

uh, I think you must have taken me all wrong. If you thought I meant you *should* talk to your parents no matter what they do to you, you are seriously mistaken. I never said anything of the sort and do not think that you should always have loyalty to your parents. Of course it is your own business. I said it was "terrible" because I was sad that such a seemingly nice person such as yourself had to be in such an awful situation. I was not judging you and I was not trying to tell you what to do. It is terrible that you are forced not to talk to your parents, but I didn't say that it was your fault or that your actions were terrible.

<<If you think thats terrible I'm sorry I dont fall into your family moralistic values catagory as a self serving Christian but I have the stregnth to say NO and BYE to my parents.>>

Pardon me but I am not Christian and I never was. And if my parents were being bastards to me I'd do the same thing.

<<To me parents don't mean a thing and maby you think Im' some unmoral mansonite but then again I have a mind of my own.>>

My personal parents mean something to me because they have done so much for me and provide a nourishing relationship. I was not saying that everyone's parents do, and it sure is a shame that your parents haven't provided a healthy relationship. I see you seem to have judged me very quickly based on a mistake in your interpretation of my words. I don't fit in a category either.

<<I will say unless you are able to be in my situation then please keep negative comments to youreself.>>

If you would like to show me where in my letter you think I made negative comments, I'd be glad to explain what you misread.

~*~*~ivy

[Pretty psycho, eh? The guy never wrote me back, either. Maybe he was living too freely to get on the computer. Or perhaps he realized his AOL account was in his parents' names or something and had to kick it to the curb. . . . ]

MEKofTheMEKkingdom: Man, that guy have no perspective. My parents aren’t the best in the world, and they annoy me sometimes and I do a fair share of annoying them... That's just what happens, no matter what, if you are with anyone for long enough, there's gonna be conflict, but it uses patches up again after the embers have dyed down.
As for this guy saying that they unload their problems onto him, that shows that he is old enough to move out, so as I see it, if he were live with his parents, be feed ec tera, then he should pay the bills and things; help out. That most likely what these "their problems being unloaded onto me" thing is.
As for disposing of anyone who is no use to you, well, I can kind of agree with that, but I find that everyone has at least one use, even all those other jerks on this list; all of them can do something useful, maybe not to me, maybe not to you, but useful to someone; it's these kind of things that help use move up in the world, we learn useful things from people in a useful field of that particular subject; that's why books are read, to read information, be it either for entertainment or knowledge; they are still useful for us; to escape from our crowded and sometimes troubled lives; or to simply learn how to put up that spic rack you always wanted.... Whoops! That was longer than I primarily intended to write, sorry, just wanted to get my point across!